Past, Present, and Future

            Don’t you hate it when your partner makes your past indiscretions, your present and future? He holds you liable for something you did before him and decides to make it all about him? Then without notice, you find yourself trying to remember something that happened a very long time ago? You also find yourself explaining things that have nothing to do with your present or your future because like I said, it’s in your past!! Ummm excuse me for screaming. LOL

            Why is it that men want to see you as perfect? They create this facade and then expect you to live up to this carefully manufactured woman who stands on a pedestal, is unflawed and defecates flowers? How many of you have been in this predicament? What did you do? Let me tell you what I did…..

            I’m going to be honest. Love will have you doing things that are uncharacteristically you.  Initially, I thought I was at fault for hurting him. I tried to explain myself. My voice even changed to some sing-songy type falsetto that was sugary sweet and could probably be turned into a Keith Sweat hit: complete with whining and everything. Then I woke up!

            My past is my past. Your past is your past. Why should it matter what you did prior to your current relationship? I’m just skimming the surface on this topic but I extend this conversation to include if the woman was a stripper, prostitute or ‘round the way sticking tool. It’s her past!!

            I’ve learned that men are afforded many free-passes. They can come to a woman with a past so sordid, you think about taking an STI test just to talk on the phone. As women, we are expected to be akin to Mary. We have to be pure or very close to it, the less children the better (even though men have more than one baby momma), and please don’t tell him you’re not a virgin (tip: remain abstinent for at least nine months prior to this judgmental man, that way you can say you’re a born again virgin. LOL).

            My point is: Why Does Her Past Matter? Why are men so consumed with what she’s done in her past instead of focusing on how those incidents made her the lovable woman she is today? I’ll tell you what. Keep focusing on a woman’s past and watch your present and future situation….without her! Take that! *drops mic and walks away*

 

 

Your Ex Should Not be Your Next!

     By now, you should know how I feel about love and relationships. It’s a lot of work, darrnit! For starters, getting comfortable with your partner is equivalent to a woman wearing an 8 hour bra and she’s already in her 12^th hour and only wants to breathe normal and take it off. Now, she has to deal with your Ex; that scallywagging, bottom-feeding, no-ambition-having predator, who’s not even cuter than you! Compared to you, she makes you look like a Hollywood story covering international magazines

     When a woman gets to a certain age, it’s expected that whatever man she’s dating has a few women lurking in the past and one of those women may want him back just like ole school R&B. This woman will do anything in her vicious power to dampen your budding love story. If she has children (this type of woman usually has a basketball team), she will even go to the extreme low of using them as leverage. This woman also tells lies knowing that we’ve all acknowledged the world has seven degrees of separation and her fork-tongued-soliloquy will eventually find its way to your ears. Dang gossipers! And trust this “woman” is also using social media to give her a backbone. She will create a life with your man and most will believe this fairytale farce.

     Hmmmmm can’t blame it all on the woman though. Your man has to be held accountable for his actions by not entertaining this has-been. You shouldn’t be the one responding to her; he should. If he’s truly your man, let him fight this battle. I didn’t sign up for Fear Factor, therefore, I WILL NOT digest anything nasty just to win a prize in the end.

     Once again, this is why I’d rather eat ice cream. Just like men, ice cream comes in the most delectable flavors and you can choose any one and the only thing it wants to do is spend a moment on your lips but a lifetime on your hips. Sounds like love to me. Smooches Dolls!!