Dating has taken on a life of itself and it seems as if nothing is sacred anymore. Women are asking men out. Women stand on the train while men stay seated with their legs gaped wide open. Women are the head of households. Women have basically adopted the mantra “I don’t need a man!” I don’t care how old you are, there are two things I firmly believe are sacred in dating. And scene………
Sex! Ladies, stop giving it up to every man who smiles as he uses the same line on you that he used on the other woman six minutes ago. I’ve sat around women who thought it was cute as they dramatically confided that they slept with men simply because he had money and they needed the latest Louis Vuitton bag. Hot mess!! Do you not value your pocketbooks anymore? I call it a pocketbook because I know that’s where I keep all of my valuables; the items I hold dear and wouldn’t want anyone to steal. When did women start giving it up like free cheese? When did women start to de-value their pocketbooks? It seems as if tampons aren’t the only things protruding from a woman’s pocketbook; there’s also a discounted price-tag hanging out. I love empowering my ladies, but if you’re a woman and find yourself being intimate with every man you’re dating, slow your roll and remember your value because you’ve degraded yourself to a garden tool. A hoe for all those who are slow!
Time! Stop immediately answering his calls and texts. Here’s another term you have become: thirsty. When a guy calls or texts, let it marinate for a minute. Stop being the eager beaver and sit back like the queen you are and give it some time. When you respond quickly to his calls or texts, he thinks you’re at his beck and call. You send the message that you have nothing more important going on in your life than to be a first responder. Ladies, you don’t work for 911; there’s no emergency. In case you’ve never received the memo; men love the chase. Hunt and conquer is embedded in their DNA. I know as society changes so do the norms, but one thing should remain: let a man chase after you. Think about it, if a man calls or texts and you immediately respond, I can guarantee he will get bored with you quickly. You’re making it too easy for him. Men often want the woman they know they can’t have. Even when he asks you out on a date, set something up for the following week or two.
Remember to have standards, ladies. Your pocketbook and time are sacred. If you don’t place high regards on the two, a man will think you’re easy and desperate. That’s why men don’t feel as if they have to work hard; you’ve made it too easy for him. I know it’s just dating but I also know the majority of women ultimately want to get married. Then act like it! Start preparing yourself to be looked at as quality by your future husband, not a stop sign every man has ran through. SMOOCHES!
