Should You Text Him Back?

In today’s day-and-age, communication between a man and woman who are courting (remember that term?) has changed drastically. Remember the day when you would be on the phone for hours talking to your boo and at the end of the conversation, you would say, “Hang up” and he’d say, “No you hang up first”? Those days are long gone with jherri curls, Lee jeans and Lotto sneakers. Yeah I took it back. Now, texting has become the new normal making it harder to decipher if he’s really into you. Here are some scenarios to think about before you text him back. Or not. And scene……..

Scenario #1:  YOU text him and HE responds 6-12 hours later.

Answer:  Yes, text him back.

Why?:  It could be that he’s really not feeling you or maybe he was just busy. However, don’t act

like some eager teenager when responding. Fall back and wait a few hours too. I don’t consider this

as game playing: it's simply giving him what he gave you.....time lapse.

Scenario #2: YOU text him and HE responds more than 24 hours later.

Answer: No! Don’t you lift one pretty manicured finger.

Why?: Ms. Honey, he’s not feeling you! Don’t even fall for the “I was busy” crap. He only returned

your text to be polite and keep you in his rotation.

Scenario #3: YOU ask him a question and HE doesn’t answer it when responding.

Answer: No!

Why?: This means he isn’t even remotely interested in keeping the conversation going. His mind is

elsewhere and yours should be at this point too.

Scenario #4: YOU call and HE texts you back.

Answer: Yes.

Why?: He may just be a little shy. Just remind him that you would rather hear his voice.

So there you have it ladies. No need to be in a quandary about this ever-changing “getting to know

a man’s” lifestyle. All of the signs are there. Lead with your brain and not with your emotions.

SMOOCHES!

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What Are Some Sacrfices Women Make For Men?

As a successful woman in the 21^st Century, I can honestly say, the journey up to this point has been plagued with decision after decision. Some decisions were so difficult to make, they often made me depressed. And even when I professed my decision, there were times I belted it out in anger, frustration and unwillingness. So what sacrifices have women made? Here goes. And scene…….

1.      Accepting the Dream Job – There are times when women accept entry-level jobs knowing a promotion is inevitable and then BAM, when we’re asked to move up the corporate ladder we say, “No” because if we are a mother or wife, the family faces repercussions.

2.      Having More Children – What can we do when the “shop” is closed but he wants more children? 7 times out of 10 having more children affects our bodies and self-esteem.

3.      Relocating – In most cases if a man has his job relocated the whole family would move but if it is the woman, they might not necessarily move. She would find another job.

4.      Furthering her Education – When a woman has a baby, as beautiful as that may be, there is a hold on her studies.

5.      Appearance – This one is a superficial reality. She wants to be skinny with short hair and wear a particular color lipstick but he wants her with more meat on her bones, long hair and no make-up at all.

6.      Social Life – He hates your friends and forbids you to go out with them. To keep the peace in the relationship, she limits her girl-outings until at some point they become obsolete.

Women should choose to pursue the interests in which she is passionate about. When she doesn’t, it is denial of herself; the killing of her soul, not a sacrifice that she is making. If a woman does gather the courage to go against the expectation of her ‘sacrifices,’ she is immediately branded as selfish. Only very few women remain courageous and stand their ground and pursue their passion despite the resistance. To those women, I salute you. For those who haven’t found their courage, I encourage you. Smooches Dolls!

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Misconceptions Women Have About Men

As a woman, I have participated in countless sister-girl circles where we have laughed at our experiences, cried or offered advice when discussing men. These rare moments offer solace to our experiences as we share our thoughts amongst true friends, ride-or-die women and often the dependable shoulder we seek when needing an outlet. You wouldn’t believe the misconceptions we put on the proverbial table to discuss. Here are a few. And scene………….

1.       When cheating it’s all her fault and not his.

Mature women who are confident in themselves know it’s totally his fault. Yeah, the woman may have pursued him, stroked his ego and tickled his fancy (literally) but at the end of the day, he decided to cheat. Mature women may have a conversation with the other woman, but trust and believe any meaningful conversations and actions will be reserved for HIM.

2.       Having fat pockets is equivalent to a generous heart.

Yes, he has money but that doesn’t mean he wants to spend it all on you. Sometimes women look at a man’s bank account and she begins to calculate all of the expensive things he is going to lavish her with. Not true. His money is his money and yours is yours; unless you’re married and I strongly suggest you work out all the financial details prior to saying, “I do.”

3.       When he says, “I love you” he means it.

Ladies, for those of you living in la-la-land, get closer to the screen so my right hand can smack you upside your gullible head. Be leery of men who are quick to profess their love. For some reason they think saying those three words will mean we will give them the nookie. Or, it may mean he is moving too fast and trying to make a commitment before you’re ready. Personal story:  I had a man tell me he loves me in one week. What was he after? Me! To him I was an unattainable prize and he wanted to see how quick he could get me and brag to his friends. Boy was he sorry he came up with that plan.

4.       All men are dogs.

No, they all aren’t dogs. Just the ones breathing LOL. Just joking. Ladies, all men are not dogs. We really need to stop judging them based on the bad experiences we’ve had in the past. Give each new encounter a clean slate. We don’t like to be judged and neither do they.

5.       He wants a submissive partner.

No! He just wants one who is willing to compromise. One who doesn’t nag and breathe fire when he makes a mistake.

6.       Men only want skinny women.

Some men may want a skinny woman however, many love women with curves; just not curves that blurs their vision. I have found most men don’t want a walking poster child for heart disease and high blood pressure due to obesity.

So ladies, am I right about our misconceptions regarding men? Men, did you know we assume these things about you? Now, get on back out there because the way relationships are going many women would rather eat ice cream. Matter of fact, we want to put the ice cream on you! LOL. SMOOCHES

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