Feel Like Cheating?

Ok, you’re in a relationship and you love him dearly. There are days when the very thought of him makes you smile followed by the urge to call him on the phone even though you just spoke an hour ago. Then there are days when you wonder if the grass is greener on the other side; if you can cheat without getting caught. If Luther Vandross was right when he sang, “If only for one night?” And scene……….

I know I’m not the only one who has ever thought of cheating on her partner. If I am, oh well; at least I’m not ashamed to admit it. There are many reasons why women contemplate cheating on her mate. If he’s good to her or if she wants to “accidentally” push him into traffic, a woman’s rationale often remains the same. Here are a few reasons why women cheat:

1.      The other man listens – Women swoon and get moist whenever a man takes the time to genuinely listen to her. It’s like the green pill in the Matrix. We’ve chosen right and nothing could be further from wrong.

2.      He’s rich – A woman loves a man who can provide for her. She goes into a situation of accepting money from a man knowing she may not initially have to drop her panties, but if she plays her cards right the game will last long enough for her to get money to solve some of her financial woes.

3.      He’s handsome – Sometimes lust will get the best of us. Men aren’t the only ones who are visual beings. Yeah, there are times when we just want to taste the forbidden fruit too.

4.      He’s younger – When women get to a certain age having a younger man hit on her makes her feel youthful again. She wants to prove she can still make a man’s toes curl and scream out her name in sheer bliss before she sends him home to his rap CD’s and video games.

At the end of the day, I find myself and other women to be very loyal to their man. Although we may think of cheating, we seldom do. Trust, every time we walk down the street, stare aimlessly on the train, smirk at the television or fidget when reading a magazine we are thinking about a meaningless rendezvous. Those thoughts only last for a few minutes out of the day because when all is said and done, we return back to the one we love….our man!

SMOOCHES DOLLS

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Assertive or Submissive? What's her Preference?

As an author of two bestselling novels (A Love I Can Trust and The Seasons of Love), readers have often described my books as lustful, romantic, sultry and risqué.  Readers have said my books either have them feeling ashamed of the passionate feelings that may arise or wanting to be more adventurous in the bedroom with their partners. So, do women prefer to be submissive or assertive in intimacy? What’s her preference? And scene………..

My two books have sparked some very entertaining conversations. A large percentage of women find themselves transformed from being the engrossed innocent reader to becoming my last book’s main character; Alexa, a reflection of today’s sexually uninhibited femme-fatale. She chooses how many times she will be intimate with her partner, where the rendezvous will take place, where he should touch her and even how long he should take getting her to climax. Some may call this controlling but guess what? Women of the new millennium call it “Finally Gettin’ Mines!”

The role of women in the bedroom has changed for those who are in the age-group of 25-50. This age-group covers women who were born from the 1960’s through the late 1980’s. Many blame the huge gender shift on the 1960’s, as it was described as being one of the most controversial decades in American history. From empowering songs such as Aretha Franklin’s “Respect” to Kelis who screamed, “I hate you so much right now!” it is undeniable that those years are emblematic of a new kind of female consciousness.

I can’t understand why people are surprised when women are more assertive of their intimacies. Does this scare men? YES!! They internalize the change in paradigm shifts as if we are trying to minimize and negate their presence. Not the case my strong, sexy men. As we become more assertive in the bedroom, we want you to match our zest and adventure as well. No, you’re not the only one smacking our gluteous maximus, we are smacking yours too. We are telling him to dance for us. We are telling him to sit back and watch while we teach him what pleases us! So yeah, women prefer being more assertive in intimacy and we are loving it!! Smooches.

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