Congratulations, you’re
engaged!! After all, you’ve been
preparing for this day ever since you were six years old. Don’t you remember walking your Barbie doll
down the aisle to an awaiting Ken, while your teddy bears sat on the sidelines
sharing your bliss? As soon as he bends down on one knee, slides those carats
on your outstretched hand and asks, “Will you marry me?” you silently wish he’d
hurry up so you can share the news with any and everyone who will listen. Oh but wait, you’re also sizing-up the ring
like an experienced jeweler wondering how much he paid for this shimmering
block of ice.
I decided to write this
after almost regurgitating my breakfast when I came across a picture on social
media of a newly engaged female. The
picture was of her ring-adorned finger and the caption read “Let me show you
how happy I am!” You’ve gotta be kidding me!
Matter of fact, I’m feeling nauseous all over again. Does the size of your rock equal his love for
you? We can’t be this superficial. Don’t get me wrong, every woman wants to
adorn a rock so big rock that she needs to build a shelf attached to her arm
just to hold it up. But don’t get it
twisted and start measuring love with material things. This is a sure recipe for disaster and I’m sure
if your fiancé was privy to your Barbie-girl way of thinking, he’d dump you
quicker than a New York minute.
What if your man isn’t a
six-figure, investment having, mortgage living, pension accumulating type of
man? Are you expecting him to go broke
buying you a huge rock just so you can get approval from “those” women? As for
me, I don’t let my mind wander off from realistically knowing whom I’m
dating. I know that his spending habits
will reflect his income and I can’t expect anything more unless or until he
starts making more. At some point in a
woman’s life, she has to put the gibberish her mother told her and what society
endorses in with the bath water and watch it go down the drain. Its Ok ladies, reality isn’t that bad!
So, for all of you ladies
flaunting your ring as a Standard and Poor’s rating, please find a deserted
island and stay there because you are giving us all a bad reputation. I wish you all the best of luck! Smooches Dolls
