I have heard countless men say women wouldn’t know a good man if he rang her doorbell and wore a sign that read “I’m a good man.” Let me dispel this blatant lie that was more than likely fabricated by a man who is probably single and bitter. The sad part is, men have bought into this deception and place their insecurities on women having us believe we are the ones who prefer bad boys. Not! And scene…..
Men. And I am referring to a male who is 21 and older, handles his life responsibly and has the common sense to decipher a little girl from a woman. You have it all wrong; little girls who are still struggling with self-esteem and control issues prefer boys who treat them poorly. Little girls get a kick out of a man who brings unnecessary drama into her life. I’m not placing any blame on them. Not at all. Honestly, they misconstrue love because they don’t know what love is having never seen or experienced it for themselves. Now a woman on the other hand handles this differently. She expects and demands all men to treat her with respect; to honor her as she honors him in return.
I think many people misconstrue a woman who likes a man who has a little “bad boy” in him. Let me explain. Many women like men who possess a certain je ne sais quio. A man who is comfortable in the boardroom and yet can hang out with the fellas easily adjusting his swag to his environment. A man whose number of tailored suits is equivalent to the jeans hanging in his closet. A man who doesn’t break out in a cold sweat when he’s walking in certain neighborhoods or refers to people as “them” just because their colloquial speech is different.
I recently listened to someone tell me I like bad boys. Initially, I tried to explain my preference then I laughed remembering I had nothing to defend. I like a man who values me and what I bring to the table. Yes, we must share similar backgrounds. I grew up in the inner city, obtained a college degree and excel in the most professional environments. Then when my day is done, I change my clothes into something more….comfortable and kick it with my girls. So, if I want a man who is equipped with the same does that make me a bad girl?
Saying women prefer guys who treat them badly is a misnomer. Another weak ploy to have women believing the majority of us are single because we keep choosing bad boys. Let me turn the tables around, if the majority of women keep choosing bad boys, why are there so many bad boys out there? What does that say about the overall state of men? Smooches Dolls.
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