Behind a Woman's Smile

If any man is daring enough to take a real look behind a woman’s smile I applaud his bravery to enter the world of unknown. If he’s lucky, he’ll make it out alive without being traumatized and swearing off women forever. My only suggestion to him: brace yourself for the ride of your life!

No matter what a woman is going through, she has been handed the responsibility of plastering a smile on her face. Men, you’ve seen the smile before; we sometimes wear it when we’re having sex with you. The quintessential smile that is slightly shaking while trying to maintain its exuberance. But guess what? As males, your gender innately skims the surface misconstruing superficiality for the real thing. You are so wrong.

Behind a woman’s smile there are wounds that haven’t yet healed; wounds that are drowning from many years ago and hell, maybe even from the night before.  You see, our morning rituals are something like this for most of today’s women: get up, (a quickie might be inserted here if you live with a man), fix and eat breakfast for the family (you may or may not have time to eat at the table), get the kids ready for school, get dressed, comb your hair, put on your makeup and decide which smile you want to wear for the day. Will it be the half smirk because you’re too damn tired to fake it? Or will it be the extra Marsha Brady smile that is armed with fireworks to mask your pain? Decisions. Decisions.

As for me, there have been times when I’m about to go on stage and speak before hundreds of people or about to be interviewed for a radio show or host my own radio show and I had to keep telling myself, “Pull it together Sanya. Don’t let those tears fall. You can cry in 4 maybe 6 hours.”  Some days it all catches up and I couldn’t buy a smile even if it were 75% off and on the clearance rack. So if you really want to find out who a woman really is, look behind her smile. She’s so much more than who you think she is.  The cape is off, her super-powers are gone and she is just….LOVE .